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0:00 Hello everyone, it's been a long time since I filmed the truth series. A while ago, I posted a short video on IG. The content was that I used to think that I was a very boring person. After the video was posted, I received a lot of feedback and comments from everyone. So today I want to come here to share with you that I actually encountered a pretty big bottleneck in the past year. That is, I began to feel that my life had no motivation and enthusiasm at all. After I started to have this feeling, I spent about a year researching and exploring why I had this feeling. Plus, I am now probably about to enter my thirties, and my work is already... almost... Hmm? It's been almost 8 years, right? So actually, I've gained a lot of insights during this period, and I want to share them with you here. It
0:45 just so happens that Cathay Life Insurance also hopes that everyone will pay more attention to "physical and mental health". In addition to the usual insurance, they also hope to value everyone. And I am actually a long-term policyholder of theirs. I must honestly say that I think in many of their online activities, you can see that they are different from other insurance companies. Anyway, today I will share with you the experience of my research during this period. If you have any good methods, you are also welcome to leave a message to share with me. Although in the video I always seem to be very happy and do a lot of things, and I have traveled to many places and taken on many challenges, but last year was really the year with the least motivation since I started filming. In fact, there was about three months in the middle when I didn't film.
1:30 At that time, when I shared with my friends that I was actually very unmotivated and didn't know where my goal was, they didn't really understand me. They would ask me, " Aren't you always doing what you like?" I am indeed doing what I like, but I feel like my body is very active, that is, I can do a lot of things every day. I wake up and have a lot of tasks to complete, but my heart has no motivation or enthusiasm at all. Then I realized that during this period of time, I actually used a sense of responsibility to complete these jobs and tasks, but my heart has a kind of empty feeling. I don’t know what the goal of my hard work is, and I don’t know what my ideal life should be like. In other words, what is my ideal and why do I do
2:15 these things? In fact, for a period of time, I envied those people who have a lot of passion burning in their hearts and know what they should do. Unexpectedly, because actually on IG, every time I open a Q&A, the most common question I get is Ajin, right? But in fact, it’s not. There were really many times when I was very confused and was also looking for my own direction in life. Later, I found that it was not just me who had no motivation. In this era, there are a lot of people who have the same troubles as me. So I spent a lot of time watching a lot of videos and reading a lot of articles. I think I got a little bit of an answer. I want to
3:04 share with you here a channel that I really like among all the videos I have watched during this period. It is called It is a very cool channel. The host is a very cool person who once went to a place and then returned to find the direction of his life. He is a psychologist. His videos are actually just about analyzing some psychological problems that modern people often encounter. I really think that after watching his videos, my life has changed. When I encounter many problems, I will use a completely different way of thinking to face them, and I will have a brand new understanding. I really recommend his channel to a lot of friends around me. Before
3:50 discussing the issue of "no motivation", I think we must first mention a word that everyone has heard of but may not know exactly what it is. Dopamine is actually a substance in our brain. It is like a navigation. Its purpose is to drive humans to move in a direction that is helpful to us and drive you to want to do this thing again. Suppose a hunter in ancient times suddenly found food and water in the wilderness. The brain would release a lot of dopamine at the moment of finding food, making you want to remember this location, and even can't wait to do it again. But in this era, this reward navigation is used in the short videos we watch every day. And TV series and social media. These large amounts of stimulation have hijacked our brain. In fact, the science of dopamine is
4:36 quite complicated. So Dr. K always uses relatively simple or metaphorical ways to describe it to everyone in his videos. Today, I think we should do the same and use simple ways to understand it. You can imagine that dopamine is actually a bit like a barrel of fuel that is automatically filled up every morning when you wake up. Suppose you just got up today and the first thing you do is to scroll through your phone. You scroll through short videos, scroll through social media, scroll through other people's life highlights. One of your friends went abroad and traveled to Bali again. What would happen at this time? Your brain would release a large amount of dopamine at a high speed. It's like you keep pressing the accelerator to the bottom. Although you will feel great at the moment, your fuel will soon run out. At this time, you will start to feel a little unmotivated and bored. You may even need more stimulation to ignite you again. When you really have to go to work, you will find that you still have a whole day to do, but you have already used up your barrel of fuel in the morning. At this time, your work will of course become very boring and difficult to engage in. If you keep working under such circumstances After a while you start to wonder why I
5:29 should do this job? You don't even want to "start" working. Then I looked back at my own life and found that it was exactly like this. If I trace it back to the source, I think it was because there was a time when I was under a lot of pressure and I found out, oh! Scrolling my phone seems to be a way to escape from this stressful feeling. As long as I scroll my phone, I will enter the world of my phone or even the world of watching TV series. Then I don’t have to worry about any pressure in reality. Oh, what a great way to escape. So I developed this habit. But one day, it was like waking up from a dream. Then I realized that in fact, this problem, the
6:18 problem I had not faced, was always there. And even as time went by, it became more and more serious. Back to myself, I actually knew clearly that I didn’t want to spend my vacation time scrolling my phone or watching TV series. But when I was faced with what I should do with my life, how should I plan my vacation, what I like and what I want to do, I would feel a lot of pressure. Then my brain would automatically choose at that moment, giving priority to things that would make me feel happy and satisfied. Yes, that is very simple, scrolling my phone and watching TV series. The result is that my life seems to have nothing to desire or want except work. My life has actually become very much like a cycle. First, I scroll my phone to find entertainment, and then consume dopamine, so I don’t want to work. Then I scroll my phone
7:06 again, so I consume more dopamine, and then I don’t want to work anymore. It goes on like this in an endless cycle and in the end you’ll feel, ah! What am I doing? What am I doing every day? I have no motivation in life and I even feel disgusted with myself. I feel like I don’t know how long this will last! But I just couldn't stop, and in the end I felt empty (sigh). Speaking of this, I really hope that many people have the same trouble as me. If it's just me, I'd be very disappointed in myself (bitter smile). So, the first thing I changed was that dopamine is actually a signal that the brain uses to reinforce your behavior. When you release dopamine at the right time, your brain will remember the feeling that this thing is worth doing, and it will be easier to be motivated next time, making you want to do it again. What I have to force myself to do now is not to scroll through social media or watch any videos
7:55 when I wake up in the morning. The only thing I can do is two things. One is to check my calendar, and the second is probably to reply to some work messages. In fact, it is very difficult to completely quit scrolling on my phone because my work is also very dependent on my phone. For example, when I often check the information of some YouTube or IG videos, I will accidentally be attracted by these short videos. I try to get myself into the work state as soon as possible. Whenever I feel that I seem to be controlled by dopamine and my brain seems to have an urge to scroll on my phone, I will tell myself Okay, you may drink some water or wash your face first, and it will take you 5 minutes, and the urge will almost pass. When I am not distracted that day, I may finish writing a script in one morning, and when the progress is super good, I will feel a sense of accomplishment.
8:45 When I do it again the next day, I will not feel that this thing is so difficult. So if you use it on writing copy, or studying, or exercising, which are things that can produce results, then you will find the next day that you will be more likely to repeat this cycle. So when I was a child, the teacher said that he was not lying. As long as you choose the right allocation of dopamine in the morning, your work today will be more efficient. Well, after trying the allocation of dopamine, I think I have also seen some changes in my work. It’s not that writing scripts suddenly becomes a super happy thing. Now I can complete it more smoothly. I don’t always want to be distracted by watching videos or swiping my phone when I’m halfway through writing. I think it’s just a job, and then I just finish it. The point is that I have a
9:32 lot more time every day. For example, now I finally have time to be passionate about other things because my brain finally has time to think and feel. So if you are watching this video and you feel very unmotivated, I highly recommend that you try it out. If you want to use a more relaxed and interesting way to check your current status, Cathay Life Insurance now has an online interactive test called , which takes about 3 minutes to complete. The result of my current test told me that it made me reflect on whether I was careless about others again. If you finish this test, Cathay Life Insurance has another one recently. If you are, you can get Of course, I think counseling is actually a long-term process. It is not something that can be achieved in one go and suddenly see some magical effect. For example, I used to discuss with the counselor a lot, saying that I felt like I was always useless and I would procrastinate. I would feel very disappointed in myself. Then he would tell me that I
10:24 should actually think about why I procrastinate. Are you actually avoiding something behind your procrastination? Are you actually too strict with yourself? You should try not to push yourself so hard. Of course, I would feel very strange at that time, because I already felt that I was useless, and now you told me that I should give myself more time. Then I shouldn't push myself so hard. I should be stricter with myself. But after we talked for a long time, I began to understand the reasons behind procrastination, and I began to forgive myself. The process of counseling is that you will get a lot of weapons. In the future, when you encounter some setbacks in your life, or you don't know how to solve a problem, you can take out those weapons and face the various challenges in life. I think whether you are going
11:09 through a low point now, or you just want to understand yourself better, or want someone to talk to you, I think if you have ever thought about going, this may be a good opportunity, and you may get unexpected gains. In addition to the usual daily insurance, they also hope to accompany everyone to learn how to take care of their body, their emotions, and their finances. For example, in their app, there is a health bar, and there are some small exercises of mindfulness meditation, or you can measure your stress every month. So I will do some small challenges in their app. For example, now our whole family will go for a walk together to get a discount on the premium. This really makes our family healthier. If you want to know more about As for Cathay Life's products or services, I will put the link in the information column so that everyone can learn more. Recently, I quietly discovered something. People in our era are too afraid of boredom. We have to do a lot of things all
11:58 the time to fill our time. We work hard to prevent ourselves from feeling bored or being considered boring by others. But in the end, I found that one of the reasons why I have no motivation is because my brain is fed with these stimuli all the time. When I don't have any time to stop and think about what I like, what kind of person I am, and what I want to do, when I don't have any free time to think about this, of course I don't know what to do with my life, and I won't generate any current goals and motivation. This is why we will suddenly have a good idea when we are taking a shower or before going to bed, because that is one of the few times in our day when we do n't need to look at any mobile phone or do anything else. We just focus on the present and talk to ourselves. Everyone should have this experience. I think when I take the time to experience these boring moments in my life, like when I am walking, I will walk well. Then
12:44 when I wash the dishes, I wash them carefully. I think at this moment, my brain can really reorganize itself, just like a reset. I have some free time to think about what I really want in life. I feel like I have cleared a layer of fog, and my vision becomes clear. That feeling is actually quite good. It's not like before, where my brain seems to be constantly distracted by something, taking away my concentration, and being distracted in various ways. Yes, sometimes I feel like my brain is really like paste. Speaking of this, I really recommend everyone to go for a walk. I really love walking. I think walking has a magical power, and it's the kind where you don't look at your phone or listen to music, but just walk. One day I felt very magical, because I didn't sleep much, and I was also rushing to finish a script, so I wasn't in a very good
13:42 mood. But it happened to be noon and I had to go buy food. So I walked for about 20 minutes to buy a lunch box, and when I came back, it seemed like nothing happened, and I was in a better mood. Is this the magic of walking? So after that, whenever I was in a bad mood, I would go for a walk Empty my mind. I recommend this to everyone. Yes, I think everyone knows that exercise is good for the body, but sometimes you just can’t find the time. That’s okay. I think you can just take a simple walk, just walk for 10 or 20 minutes. Just walk around your home when you have nothing to do. Balance your dopamine. I think that in this era, although many things have become very convenient, very fast, and very safe, at the same time, the things we have to adapt to have become much more than before. Sometimes it’s not that we have become very fragile, but that the world is too complicated and too fast. Everything is happening so fast, and we haven’t learned how to deal with these emotions, and no one teaches
14:30 us what to do. So we often have to rely on social media or excessive consumption to divert our attention. When I brush my teeth and wash my face, I will also watch a short video. When I eat lunch, I may also watch a long video. Even when I am taking a bus, I am always scrolling on my phone. In fact, in the long run, these things have a lot of negative effects on our lives. If you still don’t know what to do, you can seek help from external forces. For example, there is a psychopath around me who always comes up with a lot of weird ideas. He is the shopkeeper. He always... You are the psychopath. He always comes up with a bunch of crazy ideas, and then makes me challenge something new, pushing me
15:16 into the fire pit. That's right. Many times when I'm actually executing it, I feel like Oh no, it's so painful, but after it's over, I'll always be very grateful to him. Damn it. The time this year that made me feel the most alive was my last video, when Kenya and I completed this Japanese song, and then we went to Dagang to perform. Although during the process I really felt that it was impossible to complete this challenge within a month, and I would definitely fail. I was extremely upset and thought, no, there is no way. But in the end I still fought hard and gritted my teeth to complete it. Because you set this goal, so every day when you wake up you just know, oh, okay, my latest goal is to learn to DJ, and then I want to perform. Right, you don't even think about whether I have any goals, the goal is there, very clear and visible, and
16:03 I also think that after it was completed, I felt that it had a big impact on me. It was the end of the performance. It seemed that it was a week after the performance. One day I suddenly thought, "I really completed it. In fact, I can do it. Why did I feel that I couldn't do it before? I'm so great. I was really conscious and paid attention to this matter." Then I found out that our brains need proof. Completing something is like a badge. After every time, if I doubt myself, I think I can take out this badge and tell myself that I can actually do it. Yes, I already have a record. Later, I found out that the "goal" we set at the beginning is actually not important at all. It can be as small as successfully completing a push-up, or as big as completing a
16:53 performance. The key is to set something that you don't hate, and that can bring you a sense of freshness, and even give you a sense of accomplishment after you complete it. Then after you actually complete it, you will slowly begin to find your own motivation. If you have watched my videos in the past six months, you may have noticed that we have been doing things that we have never done before. Yes, and we may do a lot more in the future. Anyway, I think this series of challenges, although part of me feels very tired, my confidence is really increasing. I feel like I seem to be... like... compared to the A Jin who only scrolled on his phone every day and was very anxious and didn't
17:38 know what he was doing more than a year ago, he is now, right? That's about it, right? That's about it. Anyway, The more you push yourself to the point of having no way out, the greater the sense of accomplishment you will have after you complete it, and the more confident you will be, right? So I recommend that you all don't do dangerous things, okay? Challenging things that you haven't done before is what has brought me the greatest joy in my life recently. I'm sharing this with you all here, and I hope that after watching today's video, you may also have some feelings. Having said so much, let me make a small summary here. How did I get through this "lack of motivation" this year? The first thing, of course, is to allocate my dopamine first, and plan every day to know what I should do first and what I should do later, so as to relieve my confused brain that is always being sucked away by my phone, so that I can finally clear the fog and think clearly. In addition, because I
18:25 no longer use my phone so much, I have a lot more time, and I no longer feel guilty, empty, or even self-loathing. But at this time, when I really calm down and think about it, I find that, um? Actually, I still don't know what to do, so the idea king next to me throws me some goals that I don't hate, and that are a bit fresh and will give me a sense of accomplishment. Then I work hard to complete them. Even though I may not enjoy it very much at the beginning, and I don't know why I want to do these things, the key is to "complete" it well, and then experience the process, and even the sense of accomplishment of completing it in
19:10 the end. Yes, after completing these things, I really don't care whether the goal is big or small. I think as long as you start to "complete things", it will bring a lot of influence to yourself, a lot of positive energy, and because you complete one challenge after another, you will start to like this feeling, which will prompt you to do more things. In this process, it is very likely that you will find a goal that you are interested in or want to continue to execute. After completing one challenge after another, I found that I began to like the feeling of challenging new things, which made me more enthusiastic and generated new goals in the process. In the end, of course, I just keep the gears of this positive cycle turning. Yes, this is what I am working hard on now. I hope that this thing can keep moving forward. Every day is not smooth sailing. There will
19:56 always be many failures or disappointments. But it doesn't matter. Life is long. We need to look at the long term. As long as we are making progress, it's a good thing. That's what I think. So whether you are a person with no motivation in life or a person with motivation in life, or someone who has changed from no motivation in life to being motivated in life, or someone who has changed from being motivated in life to..., you are all welcome to share with me in the comments what you felt after reading it. Yes, maybe your experience will help others, me, or yourself. In fact, while I was writing this script, I was constantly thinking over and over again, and then I got to know myself better. I think writing is actually a good and healing way. That's all for today's
20:42 video. Don't forget to check out the link under our information column to take the Cathay Pacific test. You are welcome to share your results with me in the comments. I have a goldfish brain with a short memory but I love making videos, drawing, and singing. Everyone, see you on the great channel. Let's challenge the world's impossible together.
22:05 Thank you.
