8 Ways to Become More Emotionally Mature

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0:45 when someone is emotionally immature they can manage their feelings in nearly any situation they possess empathy for others and often know how to de-escalate a conflict if necessary they're the person you go to when you have a tough issue you need to talk about sounds great right well to help you get a grasp on your emotions here are eight ways to become more emotionally mature number one identify your emotions how can we get a grasp on our emotions if we don't first know what we're feeling it might seem silly that you must identify your emotions but before you get into a heated fight or start breaking down into a sob do you know what led you there maybe a simple irritation over a comment someone made found its way deep into your thoughts and you carried that anger with you for

1:30 the rest of the day if you first recognize what you're feeling then you can start to understand why and resolve it for yourself try leaving a tally in a journal every time you feel angry or irritated and for every time you feel sad or empty then ask yourself why you felt that way being aware and understanding why you feel these things can help you manage your emotions so if you know you're getting irritated at your brother for eating the last donut your donut take a breath and recognize that you're simply irritated at a doughnut before you say something you'll regret that irritation could turn into anger for the rest of the day if you don't first identify why you were even angry in the first place now recognize your anger and acknowledge it remind yourself that your feelings are

2:16 valid but you don't have to act on them number two take responsibility have you ever denied something just because you didn't want to admit you were wrong sometimes reality can be hard to face but it's more mature to take responsibility for our actions instead of brushing them away if we simply ignore that we were wrong during an argument or don't take action on things that are our responsibilities we can never learn and grow from our mistakes being aware holding yourself accountable recognizing you were wrong and learning from your mistakes shows that you're emotionally mature not only that next time you're in the same situation you won't make the same mistake twice number three find a role model if you struggle with how quickly you react

3:03 negatively in stressful situations try looking towards someone you admire as a guide what would they do if someone you admire acts in an emotionally mature and positive way in tough situations it's great to use them as a role model like mother teresa what a role model it's important to of course not lose track of who you are you don't want to become your role model and lose yourself you just want to learn how they handle situations so well maybe they have a great work ethic that you admire try it out how do they handle negative feedback calm and smoothly worth a try so next time you're in a tough situation think what would mother teresa do number four keep a thought diary do you suffer from negative thoughts are you constantly discouraging yourself

3:50 do you point out your flaws every time you look in the mirror or complete a project it's important to our mental health that we work towards having positive thoughts as opposed to negative ones while we may think oh it's just one negative thought no big deal these negative comments we make to ourselves start to pile up soon you're left with a harsh thinking pattern that will often take the lead when it comes to what you think these thought processes are usually automatic and can become habitual we don't want to think of ourselves or others in a negative light but negativity can find a way inside of our minds a good way to think positive is to practice cognitive reconstructuring this can be done by keeping a thought diary write down what you feel every day what were some thoughts that raced through your mind

4:36 what did you stress about was it worth it what are some alternative ways to look at the situation our worry can be valid but when we open up our diary and see the same thoughts take up our day over and over we may realize they weren't worth worrying about at all when we recognize this we can start to move on and come up with practical solutions on how to resolve our stress and negative thoughts we can always counteract the negative thoughts by writing a positive one beside it as well number five learn to be open-minded emotionally mature people understand they don't have all the answers that's why it's best to open our minds to other perspectives besides simply our own we may have a strong opinion on certain subjects but it doesn't hurt to actively listen to another's opposing opinion

5:22 instead of thinking about ways we can persuade them that they're wrong it's best not to judge someone or something right away if we learn to be open-minded even with the little things we give ourselves the chance to try something new we can enjoy different films or literature we might not have thought was our taste try a unique recipe and most importantly hear others out we may learn something from listening to another's perspective and we may realize we were wrong we can still choose our opinions in the end but this is after we've listened with an open mind to the other's beliefs or arguments even if we don't agree we may understand them a little bit more and that can be powerful as our role model mother teresa has advised if you judge people you have no time to love them number six

6:10 embrace reality do you often beat yourself up because of your circumstances and your flaws remember negative thoughts do they spend a lot of time dwelling on your reality instead of dwelling on your flaws or even suppressing them accept and embrace them this is your life instead of ignoring your struggles find a way to be at peace with them if you can change it work towards change if you can't embrace who you are where you are and work towards what will make you smile embracing this will not only give you clarity to move forward but peace as well mother teresa's wise tips on peace peace begins with a smile number seven pause and be patient have you ever been

6:55 in a heated argument and said something he didn't mean and later regretted it this is likely because we act on impulse when upset if we take a moment to pause and reflect we can then begin to say what we really mean simply expressing how we feel and why can turn a situation around by not only making the other person understand you but yourself as well choose to pause in a stressful or confusing situation to give yourself the option to consciously choose how you want to react it will only lead you on the path to emotional maturity and number eight live in the present dwelling on the past can cause us sadness and regret dwelling on the future don't even get me started on how stressful so while we can learn from our past and make choices for our future

7:40 we need to learn to live in the present if we're present and make conscious decisions we're less likely to react negatively or fall into old habits being present is powerful it's the only moment we can act choose experience and enjoy if we allow ourselves to we can't change the past and we can't jump to the future so why waste the precious time we have dwelling upon them life is happening now as we speak in front of you and as mother teresa would say yesterday is gone tomorrow has not yet come we have only today let us begin so are you emotionally mature did you find these tips helpful let us know which one of these tips you'll follow in the comments below

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